Shaunkun ([info]shaunkun) wrote,
@ 2007-09-23 23:14:00
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People have asked me recently what I am looking for in my perfect mate. And I think I'm getting close to knowing. I think I will post this one publically, and perhaps add to it later.

Physically -
Must be interested in physical activity.
Must be motivated to live a relatively healthy lifestyle.
Must have some body hair.
Must not regularly shave down there.
Must enjoy some type of exercise, preferably any of the following:

  • Weight Training

  • Wrestling

  • Parkour or Free Running

  • Running / Jogging




Mentally -
Must be able to carry a conversation.
Must have an opinion about politics, current affairs, and pop culture.
Must enjoy some form of reading (comic books fit this requirement).
Must have an ongoing interest in something (otherwise known as a hobby).
Must not type in "733t speak" regularly.
Must have a good knowledge of a foreign language (this includes Spanish).
Must be willing to ask questions and learn.


Motivation -
Must want to do something with life.
Must find some enjoyment with profession.
Note: if enjoyment is not found, mate should be actively looking for a profession they will enjoy!
Must be able to motivate me, and want better things for us.


Socially -
Must be able to have a social life.
Must be willing to go out once and a while, and stay in once in a while.
Drinking is acceptable, but I am not a fan of any other substance use.
Must be as comfortable in a cafe as they are in a bar.
Must enjoy going out to eat, and must enjoy trying a variety of foods.


Nerddom -
Must have some nerd classification - whether it be anime, comics, video games, or computer savvy. Perferably all four.
Note: No Super-Trekkies.


Emotionally -
Must be loving.
Must love me for who I am.
Must have the werewithal to understand and work with his own emotional issues as well as mine.
Must be emotionally caring, understanding, and supportive.
Must not be a push over.
Must be relatively stable (or at least as stable as I am, which is generally not a high bar to reach).
Must be able to communicate his feelings.
Must have an awareness of self.


Sexually -
Must cuddle.
Must be willing to try new things.
Must like kissing.


Plusses! -
Glasses
Traveled or lived outside of the United States for an extended period of time.
Good with the cooking.


Deal Breakers -
Feminine guys. Great friends, but it's just a huge HUGE turn off.
Waifs. If you feel that you should starve yourself to be like Kate Moss, it's a deal breaker.

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[info]patrickqin
2007-09-24 12:38 pm UTC (link)
Tall order....

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[info]shaunkun
2007-09-24 02:46 pm UTC (link)
I know. :(

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[info]goblinator
2007-09-24 01:52 pm UTC (link)
So where should potential guys send their resumes and references? ;P

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[info]shaunkun
2007-09-24 02:47 pm UTC (link)
They can post here, send me an e-mail, or google me ;) heh heh.

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[info]jlarissa
2007-09-24 05:41 pm UTC (link)
Ah-ha! You're after the elusive sexy nerd. Those guys hide in trees or something. Just keep looking, you're bound to find one. :-)

And what's wrong with super trekkie waifs, huh? :p

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[info]shaunkun
2007-09-24 09:51 pm UTC (link)
So I should put in "Must not hide in trees?"

As for what's wrong with the super trekkie waifs...? For some reason, it just doesn't work out. ^_^

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you forgot something. . .
[info]gryphon77
2007-09-25 06:36 pm UTC (link)
*giggle* must be gay?
and just for fun. . . not that it means anything. . .


*Physically -
Check *Must be interested in physical activity.
Check *Must be motivated to live a relatively healthy lifestyle.
Check *Must have some body hair.
Check *Must not regularly shave down there.
Check *Must enjoy some type of exercise, preferably any of the following:



*Mentally -
Check *Must be able to carry a conversation.
nope *Must have an opinion about politics, current affairs, and pop culture.
check *Must enjoy some form of reading (comic books fit this requirement).
Check *Must have an ongoing interest in something (otherwise known as a hobby).
Check *Must not type in "733t speak" regularly.
half Check (german) *Must have a good knowledge of a foreign language (this includes Spanish).
Check *Must be willing to as questions and learn.


*Motivation -
Check* Must want to do something with life.
Check *Must find some enjoyment with profession.
Note: if enjoyment is not found, mate should be actively looking for a profession they will enjoy!
hmmm depends on if motivation = fighting? hehe j/k *Must be able to motivate me, and want better things for us.


*Socially -
Check* Must be able to have a social life.
Check (though might not be really matched. .) *Must be willing to go out once and a while, and stay in once in a while.
Check *Drinking is acceptable, but I am not a fan of any other substance use.
check *Must be as comfortable in a cafe as they are in a bar.
Check (better than I used to be with food) *Must enjoy going out to eat, and must enjoy trying a variety of foods.


*Nerddom -
Check* Must have some nerd classification - whether it be anime, comics, video games, or computer savvy. Perferably all four.
Check* Note: No Super-Trekkies.


*Emotionally -
Check* Must be loving.
Check after knowing you this long probably counts even if we dont' always agree *Must love me for who I am.
Check (at least I think) *Must have the werewithal to understand and work with his own emotional issues as well as mine.
Check *Must be emotionally caring, understanding, and supportive.
Check *Must not be a push over.
Check *Must be relatively stable (or at least as stable as I am, which is generally not a high bar to reach).
Check (or at least with most people. . sometimes I know we have trouble communicating) *Must be able to communicate his feelings.
Check(as far as I know) *Must have an awareness of self.


*Sexually -
Check *Must cuddle.
Check *Must be willing to try new things.
Check *Must like kissing.


*Plusses! -
not really but might eventually *Glasses
traveled once for 3 weeks *Traveled or lived outside of the United States for an extended period of time.
Good with you cooking and don't mine cleaning up. . hehe *Good with the cooking.


*Deal Breakers -
nope *Feminine guys. Great friends, but it's just a huge HUGE turn off.
Waifs. If you feel that you should starve yourself to be like Kate Moss, it's a deal breaker.


ok. I know that was long, but it was amusing, and interesting. . frustrating thing is it seems like even making a list, and I've made one myself that might be overly detailed, matching the list doesn't necessarily mean it's a good match. And the reverse is often true. hard to really know, and I wish I did know the formula myself.

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Re: you forgot something. . .
[info]shaunkun
2007-09-25 07:00 pm UTC (link)
See, I've found these people in Real Life (tm), but yeah, they're usually straight.

And you're right, just fitting these requirements doesn't make a perfect match - but it's somewhere to start.

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[info]leo_gwm
2008-06-24 09:49 am UTC (link)
Hmmmm . . . I'm really close here. Thanks for articulating them in a list as you'd be surprised how hard it is to truthfully a) really know what you want and b) write it down so you have a starting point and something to fall back from.

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[info]shaunkun
2008-07-05 04:51 pm UTC (link)
Yeah, this was an experiment in some ways. I look back on it now, and it all still applies. Though I do know that such criteria can eventually be limiting, it's a good place to start :)

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[info]leo_gwm
2008-07-05 11:57 pm UTC (link)
I noticed you added me to your flist . . . I've friended you back. I don't update much lately, but welcome to the world inside my head just the same :-)

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